Have some things you really need to know about bullying? Caught in a bullying situation and don’t know what to do? Find out the answers to the commonly asked questions by different kinds of people about bullying.

Why me?

The right question should be ‘why does a bully bully?’ Bullies look for the right opportunity when the victim is alone. They may bully out of jealousy and they enjoy having power over others.

Is it just happening to me?

You are not alone. According to statistics by The Star’s Survey, 8 out of 10 Malaysian children have experienced some form of bullying.

Is bullying just a part of growing up?

No, everyone deserves to be secure and safe. How you choose to react from your experiences can bea process of growing up, but bullying is not meant to be part of it.


Can I make a difference?

Yes. Your action no matter how small can make a big difference in giving him hope and a feeling
of value and worth

I’m scared, what if I step in and then I become the victim?

You should only step in or take action when you feel safe. Taking action does not mean you should step in like a superhero, but to make sure that you and the victim are safe.

What should I do?

Don’t be part of the crowd, a bigger audience only encourages the bullies. Go and inform an adult you can trust. Speak to the victim, let him know that he is not alone.


Is my child being bullied?

Look out for signs from your child usual signs include being negative about school, claiming to be too sick to attend school, having low self-esteem, not mixing much with his friends, having unexplained bruises and talking about wanting to get back at someone.

How can I prevent my child from being bullied?

Help your child understand bullying, check on his daily activities, encourage him to travel in groups and to keep calm and contact an adult if confronted by bullies. You should also learn more about your child’s school’s policy towards bullying.

Is my child a bully?

Look out for signs like; difficulty in understanding another person’s feelings, being always angry about something, wants to be in control, want to impress peers, lacks discipline and may be a victim himself.


I witnessed a pupil being bullied in the classroom. What do I do?

Call for the head of department, who will place the bully in a room. Ask the victim and witnesses to write about the situation and send photocopies of the statements to the Head of Student Affairs and Head of Behaviour. When the bully is put back in class, have him sit away from the victim and continue teaching without bringing up the incident.

What are the possible effects of bullying?

The victim may develop fear, depression, hopelessness, eating disorders, violence towards others, self-harming, and suicidal thoughts. He may skip school often and also become a bully himself.

A student has claimed to being bullied, but I cannot prove it. What do I do?

Ask the victim to write what has happened and to put in the witnesses and the bully’s names. Send a report to the relevant department for them to contact the parents of the children involved.

I have noticed other teachers ignoring the bullying situation. What should I do?

Always remain professional, do not discuss this within the staffroom and do not confront the teacher. Have a discreet and confidential meeting with your line manager to investigate the situation.

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